parentshop.com.au Articles & ResearchArticles & ResearchPlease browse our list of articles and research. This is informative reading for parents and those who work with parents. Don't eat the marshmallow yet! Impulse control in childrenIn the late 1960s Stanford University conducted the renowned “marshmallow experiment” that tested delayed gratification in children. Watch this video; it’s worth a look, even if for comedy value alone. Empathy and ParentingLet’s imagine our daughter comes home from school in a pretty bad mood. She storms in, kicks the cat, yells at her little sister and generally growls at anyone who looks her way. You ask, “How was your day?” She replies “Horrible, Mrs. B. sent me to detention again for no reason! I hate her, I hate that school! It sucks!” Can you picture it??
Bonding over bonsai
Many parents are so confused by the change in their offspring from the friendly, happy, easy-going child to the moody, uncooperative, reclusive teenager that they lose their bearings when it comes to the relationship stuff.
Parental authorityBy Michael Hawton MAPS Authority is a funny word. Most of us don’t like it but see it as a necessary part of life. Our kids probably hate it because they see that it stops them doing what they want. However, as parents part of our job is to exercise an appropriate sense of authority. When we don’t, our kids can get more anxious because they can’t make many important decisions by themselves. Super Nanny’s unwise advice about apologising
Many people, Super Nanny included, believe children should be made to apologise after they have hurt someone or behaved rudely. In the Super nanny version of parenting, children who have done the wrong thing come out from time-out or away from the ‘naughty chair’ and are made to say ‘sorry’ to those they have offended. I expect Super Nanny and others in favour of the immediate apology want to make the child more aware of the impact of their actions on others so that the child will not act that way. Evaluation and 1 Year Follow Up"Over 90% of the parents felt that the 1-2-3 sessions had made a significant difference in their child's behaviour." Triple P in NSW
A decision by the NSW state government to significantly sponsor Triple P practitioner training will have many implications for practitioners and families in the coming years. Of course, the Triple P program is effective for families and the government’s desire to help support families is commendable. On the other hand, this decision will mean that there will be less diversity in this important area. Paramedic Parenting
Paramedics are trained to put their feelings aside when they attend an accident. They have learnt procedures to apply when they arrive at a critical incident and the rational, organised part of their brain takes control; they complete the appropriate tasks needed to assess the situation and provide emergency care to the patient. After hours, no doubt, paramedics sometimes are affected emotionally by the situations they have attended. However, usually they can override these emotions when they are on the job. In fact, they need to shelve these emotions because otherwise their feelings might interfere with their ability to do their job effectively. The smacking debateBy Michael Hawton MAPS Kelly, mother of three children under 10, attended the community health centre where I was once the child and family psychologist. When we spoke of how parenting was going for her she answered:
The Power of SilenceChildren are just mini-versions of ourselves and if we present the right reasons for changing their behaviour they will do so willingly. Right? Learning Frustration ToleranceParents can teach children ‘frustration tolerance’; here’s what Tom Phelan thinks... Children and SleepHelping your children (and yourself) get a good night's sleep is a common parental problem. Here's some well-honed ideas which will result in everyone doing better in this department. Impulse control - can it be learnt?How many of you have been on a diet for a few days when a colleague comes to work selling chocolates for a fundraiser? Do you give in and buy a chocolate; it’s for a good cause after all? Or do you resist?Parenting Teenagers: Dealing with a difficult topicEven the most easygoing parents have implicit expectations of the way their teenagers should behave: that they are respectful, that they’ll get along with people and, that they’ll try to do their best. When our adolescents breach our expectations, the tendency is to either take offence and use force, or feel helpless and withdraw from any potential conflict with them. These are common parental reactions in the face of potentially difficult- to- manage situations.Avoiding volcano parentingBy Michael Hawton MAPS – psychologist and Simone Wallington How many times have you found yourself angry with your child? Maybe you’ve caught yourself yelling as your pre-schooler tipped ice cream all over the clean floor. Perhaps you’ve smacked your five year old who just narrowly escaped being hit by a car as he ran across the road, feeling a mixture of relief and anger. Toronto Hospital for Sick Children StudyParents were less stressed-out, less depressed and less angry. Their children were behaving much better. In fact, a lot better. Mooseheart Child City and School Study1-2-3 Magic made parenting easier and more flexible, while at the same time it significantly reduced problem behaviour in the children. Medicine Hat StudyThe majority of children who had fallen into the clinical range on the CBQ prior to 1-2-3 Magic fell into the normal range after three months. 123 Magic research referencesSome additional 123 Magic research references |
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